“How Lucky I Am To Have Something That Makes Saying Goodbye So Hard.” – Winnie The Pooh We stood in a family huddle, crying in the driveway. We had just lost our beloved dog Buddha, age 14. My husband adopted him from an animal shelter in NC about a year before we got married. Buddha loved exploring, car rides, howling at fire truck sirens, the dog beach, running through piles of leaves and the feeling of cool tile on a hot summer day. When we lived in GA, he even had a “second family” that he would visit everyday to get treats. He was a husky/shepherd mix and he had a floppy ear that gave him a friendly look. We will miss him dearly. (Buddha, we will love you forever! You were such…Read More
"When the parents are gone, there’s all kinds of unforeseen stuff they leave us with, stuff they never intended.” – Ira Glass, in This American Life, Episode 763: “Left Behind” If you grew up with siblings, you probably remember some sibling rivalry. That rivalry can continue well into adulthood, especially after the parents are gone. In many families, parents are like the glue that keeps the family together. Once their gone, old issues can resurface, especially when it comes to dividing the parents’ personal property. That’s why it’s important to have a plan for how you want your personal, sentimental property distributed to the people that you love. If you don’t, that can make an already tough situation so much worse. This American Life, a popular podcast, recently featured a family with such…Read More
Paying for day care is one of the biggest expenses faced by working adults with young children, a dependent parent, or a child with a disability. But there is a tax credit available to help working caregivers defray the costs of day care (for seniors it’s called “adult day care”). In Order To Qualify For The Tax Credit, You Must Have A Dependent Who Cannot Be Left Alone And Who Has Lived With You For More Than Half The Year Qualifying dependents may be the following: A child who is under age 13 when the care is provided A spouse who is physically or mentally incapable of self-care An individual who is physically or mentally incapable of self-care and either is your dependent or could have been your dependent except that his or…Read More
Is it time to have “the talk” with your kids about your estate planning? It can be hard to have these conversations with your family. Here are some tips to make it easier. Preparation Is Key 1. When You Choose Important Decision Makers, Make Sure You Match The Skills Of The Person To The Job For example, the Personal Representative (also known as the executor) of a will must be able to gather assets, prepare paperwork, handle finances, and deal with potential family disputes. Don’t choose a Personal Representative that isn’t up to that job. Too often, people choose executors, trustees, guardians, and powers of attorney based on emotions or arbitrary factors, such as who is the oldest child or who might be offended if not chosen. These are difficult, demanding jobs, and…Read More
The thought of not being around to raise your children feels crushing and too awful to consider. But if you don’t name a guardian for your children and you pass away or become incapacitated while they are minors, a judge who doesn’t know you, your children or your family will decide who raises them. Families tend to fight over children, especially if there’s money involved. And what if you have family that you don’t want raising your children? How To Choose A Guardian Consider these factors when choosing candidates for guardians and back up guardians: How well the child and potential guardian know and enjoy each other Location – if the guardian lives far away, your child would have to move from a familiar school, friends, and neighborhood. If your guardian is not…Read More
